15 Feb Love, self love, special love, and all kinds of other love x
I have been talking to so so many people of late around this fact of self love.
And it has been really quite amazing to me as to how many people get physically uncomfortable when you bring this up, and then they start with the explanation that they are not selfish, and never want to be selfish.
I find this so interesting because self love is not about being selfish at all … it is just looking after yourself, and if you do that you look after everyone and everything around you …
Love is such a special and wonderful thing, in any form …
– to love someone, or something,
– to be in love with someone,
– to love yourself …
All forms of love, all of which take on a different feeling and a different reward or outcome.
And none of which are selfish 🙂
To me if you LOVE someone or something ~ it is the best gift you can give.
If you think about people you love, like friends, and nephews, and mentors … you would do a lot for them, you would help them, you would be there for them, a shoulder to cry on, and someone you want to spend time with.
To be IN LOVE with someone is probably the most powerful thing in the world.
When you are in love with someone with every cell in your body, you become almost possessed by them. You will probably kill for them, I hope you don’t ever, but in the situation I think your view is so often skewed to “their side of the story”. And it should be, because you on each others team. I will never forget a conversation Andy and I had once, near the beginning of our relationship, and it was actually him telling me this … he said if we ever somewhere and I am in a discussion / conversation with someone, and he doesn’t agree with me, he would never say anything in the presence of others, he would back me to the end, but when we got alone, he would tell me … and that is it. You a team, you back each other, no matter what!
To BE LOVED is just as wonderful a thing as giving love (maybe even better), as it gives you a sense of safety and protection, and want and need, which is the powerful thing back to you.
I think about how my dogs love me, when they wait at the door for me at the time I always come home every evening (even if I am off travelling, Andy always sends me pics of them waiting for me), and the looks on their faces are just so wonderful, they melt away any bad feeling, horrible day or yucky thoughts I have … I feel so happy to be with them, like they will make it all better for me.
If we think about all those feelings above, and if we now go back to this topic of Self Love … why do we get uncomfortable, and think it makes us selfish?
All we doing by loving ourselves is:
* Doing things for ourself
* Helping ourself
* Being there for ourself
* Spending time with ourself
* Loving every cell and detail about ourself
* Feeling safe and protected with ourself
* Feeling of wanting and needing ourself
Again, I ask, why is that selfish … ?
For me, if I love myself I am such a better person … to others, and to the ones I love. And everyone else I come in contact with.
Even less selfish!
So I wake up today, the day after Valentines Day with so much love for myself.
I love who I am, what I am, what I am about, what makes me happy, and why I do what I do.
And I hope a day full of self love to you too!
Happy LOVING OURSELVES specials