17 Sep Happy to not like you
This past weekend (as I said) I went on the most amazing girls weekend. We were away at a game reserve, where 8 girls didn’t stop laughing, talking, eating, drinking and just being together and enjoying each others company. It was the best 4 days in a very long time, and not because I have a terrible time at home at all, but because it was just what I needed, to switch off from the world, and really and truly relax.
(thanks to my incredible girls for the weekend again, it was JUST what I needed.)
Now, as you will all know, when a bunch of girls get together we spoke about a million topics. From work, to eating habits, to hair products, to toilet activities, to family, to wants in life, to challenges, to pretty much anything. And one of those topics made something I have been toying with, very clear to me … finally.
I have been tormented by the fact that over the last 6 months or so I have come to realize that certain people who have crossed my path (or even been in my life for some time now) just aren’t really my kind of people, and to be honest, I don’t particularly like them.
It has bothered me, because I try to be perfect (remember Joy, the A type personality) and perfect means I should like everyone, and be nice to everyone, and everyone must like me. All perfect!
Well no … not perfect.
I should note here that I am not talking about tons of people, I am talking about a few people, like 3, or maybe 4, to be exact.
And over this past weekend, and all the talking and talking we did, I realized how many of us have people we not too fond of that are in our lives. They in lives not out of choice, but they are there …
So now what … they there, and I am not crazy about them.
Well, it is just that … there are some people I don’t particularly like. So be it.
Why must it be a big deal, why must I try fix how I feel, why do I worry so much about it, what do I even care …
I know its my ‘be perfect suit’ that I wear!
But … I came to realize (finally) that I am okay to just feel “I don’t like you” and I am okay with that.
The reason you in my life doesn’t mean I have to like you, so why not just get on with it and be.
We don’t have to be friends, we don’t have to have a chit chat, we don’t have to ask each other how our weekends are, and I don’t have to care what you think about me.
So, in the spirit of being me, and being happy with me, and being happy to like who I like, and not like who I don’t like … have a great day to all the people I like!